1. The changing colors of my knee

     


  2. How to feel good today?

    The past couple of days I have to be honest I have been kinda bummed out due to my knee still healing from a fall a couple of weeks ago at the Golden Trailer Awards. So I downloaded a bejeweled game app on my phone to basically escape and not think about my knee as much but it made me feel even worse like I wasn’t doing what I was “suppose” to be doing.

    Then I realized when I started playing the game I stopped writing in my success journal therefore I replaced my bumper in my pinball wheelhouse. I switched the thing that was giving me a positive boost in the morning to a mindless fun activity that was sucking all my time.

    Now that I know that I can change it. I started by submitting to Seth Godin’s paid internship program, continuing reading Tim Ferriss’ book The 4 Hour Workweek, purchased a gift for my sister and her fiancé for their housewarming and then donated to a website that is like the new Kickstarter but for public schools. Amazing donating my lunch money to schools is what did it.

    Lately in my success journal one thing that I am continually grateful for is my recent re-education, taking online courses with Dallas Travers, Laura Roeder and Marie Forleo. I have learned so much and can see the progress already from the actions that I have been taking.

    Giving back is kinda an addiction in feeling good today. I’m addicted to giving. It is pretty cool that now I can give directly to specific educational projects in public schools.

    I was lucky that I got to go to Northport High School which is where I finally got involved in extracurricular clubs, art, business and theater classes. Those were some transformative years in my life.

    Please join me in donating your lunch money and eating lunch at home to feel better today!

    http://www.donorschoose.com/feelgoodtoday

     


  3. How do you meet people while you are on the road?

    Recently I was up in Portland, Oregon which is one of my favorite cities to hang out in.

    Sometime being in a city that is not your native can be tough and lonely especially if you are not there for a long amount of time. 

    This last trip I set up an event at a photo studio that I had used before to do a video shoot and put together an impromtu party. 

    I told everybody that came that they would get a free headshot. 

    It was very much in Keith Ferrazzi fashion.

    I provided an added value which was new photos to my new found friends which helped them and made the event more memorable and even personal. 

    Some of the attendees were photographers so I even got some new shots too. 

    All in all it was a success on multiple levels. I can’t wait to do another one soon. 

    3 things I learned was:

    1 - Go with your gut and throw a party
    2 - Offer free services and people will come
    3 - Invite people who you want to build friendships with

    I would love to hear how you meet people while you are on the road?

    Gingerly yours, 

    Alexia

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    Alexia being photographed by V

     


  4. What is on your dream list?

    Think about it. What really be on your dream list if it could be anything?

    Lately I have been making a few vision boards and thinking about this very topic.

    I would love to go to India but of course not to find happiness I know that the last place I would find it.

    Just for fun maybe with a group of girls like a summer hike type of trip. I have done a couple in the past of course they always include jumping out of dreams because I wasn’t sure I was allowed to sleep in the hostel and sleeping on the floor at least a couple the nights. Times when you are cranky from sleeping on the floor and not drinking enough water but in the end you always feel like if you can get through that and go places the little things are not as hard. Writing a blog post no problem. I’ve gone to three cities in one week. They are definitely empowering. Looking forward to my next trip. India I am putting my visit into the universe. I will see you soon.

     

  5. These are examples of some of my love notes or thank you cards that I send in the snail mail.

    As you can see some of them are marker drawings and some of them are cut outs and some mixed.

    I like to play and send my energies and art to good homes.

    This is a great way to make new friends or to deepen the relationships you already have and show how much you care.

    Who doesn’t love getting home made art in the mail?

    Try it and report back. :)

    Gingerly yours,

    Alexia

     


  6. Guest Blog by Gatekeeper, Priscilla

    I thought it is very important to give thanks and attention to the people that help you along the way. The people that get you into that party where you might meet a director or even an actor that you would like to hire. There are these gatekeepers that hold the key to your future so you better be appreciative. I know I am. I am so grateful for being part of the community and family that makes up the film industry. When you call it the film industry it seems cold, but I feel that it really is a big family. 

    Enjoy! Best, Alexia

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    Guest Blog

    Priscilla here, Dallas Travers’ Program Coordinator and one of her gatekeepers. Gatekeepers aren’t trolls under the bridge waiting to stop you from getting where you want to go. We’re better looking and no where near as scary.

    In fact, my job is to help you.

    But my job is also to make the boss’s life a whole lot easier at the same time.

    I’m sure you can imagine that casting directors, agents, managers, filmmakers and coaches receive a lot of calls, e-mails and requests each day for their time and attention. In order to coordinate that efficiently, every business has a system for you to best communicate with them.

    These steps are not designed to make it hard for you to get your question answered; they’re to make sure you get help in the most efficient way possible, and the gatekeepers can still finish their work and keep everyone happy.

    Here are five tips to start you off on the right foot with gatekeepers so your next question moves through the pipeline at lightning speed.

    1. Always Identify Yourself.

    This is number one for a reason. You would be astonished at how many phone calls and e-mails we receive without any indication as to who is reaching out. Before a gatekeeper can even start helping you, they need to know your name. When you miss this step, it wastes valuable time that could be allotted toward a solution to your problem or important advice.

    You also miss out on a chance to connect to someone who wants to help you, not just now but in the future too. Think of gatekeepers as your future in-the-know buddy, not just a means to an end or an obstacle in your path.

    2. Ask the Real Question.

    Dallas often says, “Ask the real question” when reaching out to casting directors, agents and filmmakers, and the same is true for gatekeepers. Our jobs are just as busy, so the clearer you can be about what you’re looking for, the faster we can provide an answer.

    3. Check Yourself Before You Wreck Yourself.

    We’ve all been there… hitting the panic button when technology fails us. Maybe you haven’t gotten your sides for tomorrow’s audition. Maybe you can’t log in to Actors Access. Or maybe, you’re still waiting to hear back on that message you left.

    Before you send that frantic e-mail at 2:00am – and then another 15 minutes later – pause to make sure there isn’t something you can do on your end to fix the problem.

    Don’t let a sense of urgency overtake your common sense. Before freaking out, ask yourself, “How can I solve this problem on my own first?” Check your SPAM filter. Reread those instructions. Double-check the schedule. Refresh the web page. Once you’ve exhausted all options, go ahead and calmly reach out, applying Tip #2.

    Believe me, I know it’s hard. I once publicly flipped out because a woman cut me off entering a parking lot. Horn honking and explicatives to boot. Once I realized how silly I looked, I tried to apologize, and she ran away from me. And why wouldn’t she? Crazy behavior just makes you look crazy.

    4. R-E-S-P-E-C-T.

    Okay, I’ll admit it. I’ve got my favorites… and they’re my favorites because they treat me like they would want to be treated. They are friendly and clear, and they take an interest in me as a person.

    That’s right, gatekeepers are people too.

    The opposite is also true. I can easily list the names of people who were rude or dismissive and when. And I’m less likely to go out of my way for them next time. If you don’t respect my position and time, why would I risk upsetting my boss and jeopardizing my job for you?

    In the words of T. Harv Eker, “The way you do anything is the way you do everything.” How you treat a gatekeeper reflects how you treat everyone.
 Don’t assume your behavior isn’t being noted or that the boss isn’t going to hear about it.

    I’ve thrown up the Gatekeeper bat signal, and this applies across the board to all offices.

    5. Trust Me.

    I always appreciate someone who is willing to ask for what they ideally want, so if it’s possible, I will make it happen. Really, I am on your side. So, if I say no, I mean no. More specifically, I mean that I’ve checked with company policy and my boss before just telling you no.

    The entertainment industry is not like Verizon. If you don’t like what one representative has to say, you cannot just hang up and dial again. The entertainment industry is small, so you’re going to interact with the same people again and again. You have to approach the situation differently, almost like we’re co-workers and not ships passing in the night. Don’t assume we’ll never run into each other again.

    In our office, our intention is to always have your back, but it’s not the same situation everywhere. Respect the boundaries a gatekeepers sets, and you will earn their respect. Building those relationships can prove to be just as powerful as any with big-time filmmakers and high-profile CDs.

    I love the idea of us being allies. It’s my favorite part of my job, supporting creative people fulfilling their dreams and sharing their talents. 

So if we’re going to be friends, just remember to say hello, keep it short and sweet, and come from a place of respect and trust. I’ll meet you in the middle.

    Original Post: http://www.dallastravers.com/networking-relationships/how-to-get-in-good-with-the-gatekeeper/

     


  7. Last years New Years resolution

    Okay so last year I made a resolution to join a gym. I did start doing more fitness activities such as a month of unlimited Hot Yoga and a few Body sculpting classes but I did not make the plunge and do something that I never had done before which was actually join a gym.

    It was never on my priority list. I wasn’t unhappy with my weight or size, not happy either just content on being averagely a little over weight.

    Well I am extremely proud to report that yesterday I finally joined my first Gym. I have no contract so if I want to quit two months from now I could but guess what that is not going to happen because today I went for my second day and enrolled my friend to be my fitness accountability partner.

    I now know from taking Dallas Travers’ Breakthrough program for actors, it is extremely important to have accountability and peer support especially if you have a goal that is important to you.

    Putting the wheels in motion and being proactive about my life and health. I feel that I am even effecting those around me to take positive actions towards their lives. One step at a time. Sometimes it seems like not that much is happening but in fact I am making bigger strides more naturally.

    Yay! Why do opportunities always fall on my lap?

    Gingerly yours,

    Alexia

     

  8. Utter bliss is my theme for 2013 and every once in a while I get a reminder from the universe. I found this one outside a spa in Burbank, California

     


  9. Really Really like going to the theatre

    Last weekend I found out that Zosia Mamet (which I think I now finally can pronounce correctly) was in a play called Really Really. I found out because I was watching interviews of many of the GIRLS cast along with Lena Dunham on YouTube. Zosia mentioned on Letterman that she was in an off broadway play. The next morning I figured I should probably look it up and maybe I could go see it. Well it happened to be the last day that I could see this limited run play and the last performance actually still had a half a dozen tickets available. So, I did want any artsy dork would do. I bought a ticket. Yep, I even went solo because it was so last minute. I used to go to more plays by myself when I was in high school and would wait in the TKTS discount line after my acting classes. This definitely brought back memories of those fun times. 

    This was so inspiring not only see Zosia perform in person but the play itself was smart, modern, intuitive and dark. 

    Zosia performance was scary realistic and the other actors were heartfelt and very in tune with each other on stage.

    The play basically explored the “Me” generation when everybody wants everything instantly not only their information but each other. The play really (pun intended) makes a statement that “kids these days” (meaning college age) don’t know what they want but want it anyway and now. They really are finding themselves and are struggling what the media is feeding them and what they are suppose to want for themselves. They in turn lie to themselves and to those they love and that was the real scary part.

    I thought this was really put together in a way that I never saw before and so simple, yet really dug deep into what it happening right now.

    Which, of course, invigorated me to start writing this blog again and think about my own work and sparked a possible new script idea.

    Anyhow looking forward to seeing more theatre shows in the future. 

    Gingerly yours, 

    Alexia

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  10. My idea of good company is the company of clever, well-informed people who have a great deal of conversation; that is what I call… good company. - Jane Austen

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